Comments on: Loosing my Virginity http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/ Daily Motivation and Development for People and Organizations - ASE Fri, 10 Feb 2012 19:05:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: OMOZELE http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-35611 OMOZELE Thu, 23 Jul 2009 15:30:08 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-35611 many of the people who lose their virginity between the ages of 16-20 years always have regretts. that is why we must educate our youths about sex education and the dangers about it. gone are the days our parents will feel shy when discussing issues like this with their children. now is the time for everyone to know when is the right time and when isnt the right time so as to avoid unwanted babies, abortions and STD'S. many of the people who lose their virginity between the ages of 16-20 years always have regretts. that is why we must educate our youths about sex education and the dangers about it. gone are the days our parents will feel shy when discussing issues like this with their children. now is the time for everyone to know when is the right time and when isnt the right time so as to avoid unwanted babies, abortions and STD’S.

]]> By: 'Wale Akinola http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-24362 'Wale Akinola Wed, 25 Jul 2007 13:17:09 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-24362 Most events that we see as "chance" events are actually orchestrated by heaven. Reading this piece 5 months after being published, and on a day that I read about a guy that Pornography contributed the major part of his initially slow but later violent spiral to destruction, is nothing but divine. The guy's name is Theodore Robert Bundy (popularly known as Ted Bundy), who was convicted on several charges and executed in the United States. He was a serial killer (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Bundy). What does sex have to do with serial killing? You may want to read this piece if you view sex as a one time pleasure act that does not come with strings of after-effects. Sex in whatever form (thanks to Bill Clinton for enlightenment) has far reaching effect than we think. We have different views about sexuality. Sexuality is a behemoth topic of discourse. In this matter of sex, what I would just quickly say is that... 1. A step taken wrongly makes it most likely (but not certainly) that the next step would be wrong. Selah Most events that we see as “chance” events are actually orchestrated by heaven. Reading this piece 5 months after being published, and on a day that I read about a guy that Pornography contributed the major part of his initially slow but later violent spiral to destruction, is nothing but divine. The guy’s name is Theodore Robert Bundy (popularly known as Ted Bundy), who was convicted on several charges and executed in the United States. He was a serial killer (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Bundy). What does sex have to do with serial killing? You may want to read this piece if you view sex as a one time pleasure act that does not come with strings of after-effects. Sex in whatever form (thanks to Bill Clinton for enlightenment) has far reaching effect than we think.

We have different views about sexuality. Sexuality is a behemoth topic of discourse. In this matter of sex, what I would just quickly say is that…

1. A step taken wrongly makes it most likely (but not certainly) that the next step would be wrong.

Selah

]]> By: toria http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-24246 toria Fri, 20 Jul 2007 13:53:31 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-24246 Its great that we have people like you talking about these true life issues.The first thing i tried to recall was my experience,and i think its a good to know the pros and cons of one's actions and the truth is painful.Once again,ill say thank you for what you are doing. Its great that we have people like you talking about these true life issues.The first thing i tried to recall was my experience,and i think its a good to know the pros and cons of one’s actions and the truth is painful.Once again,ill say thank you for what you are doing.

]]> By: titi http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-22105 titi Fri, 15 Jun 2007 11:26:12 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-22105 Nice piece Deolu more emphasis should be made on boys to keep their viginity. its even more important for them. I believe that if a boy is taught to control his hormones and keep his virginity, then we wont have to worry about girls loosing theirs, why? because it is always(99.9% of the time) the boy that forces the girl into sex.too true !!!!!!!!!!! Nice piece Deolu
more emphasis should be made on boys to keep their viginity. its even more important for them. I believe that if a boy is taught to control his hormones and keep his virginity, then we wont have to worry about girls loosing theirs, why? because it is always(99.9% of the time) the boy that forces the girl into sex.too true !!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: Bukola Ajayi http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-22007 Bukola Ajayi Thu, 14 Jun 2007 15:27:25 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-22007 Wow! Insightful. Deolu, thanx for bringing up such a topic. It's a topic that really needs to to be discussed more. People should go to secondary schools and organise talks/ seminar on it. I did organise such seminar when i was serving. Sometimes I'd call some of my students (because I served as a teacher) and advise them on the issue of virginity. I also belong to NCCF where we have Teenage Unit and we were always going to schools to talk to teenagers. You could imagine the experience those students have had. It's really a nice piece and please keep it up. Wow! Insightful.
Deolu, thanx for bringing up such a topic. It’s a topic that really needs to to be discussed more. People should go to secondary schools and organise talks/ seminar on it.

I did organise such seminar when i was serving. Sometimes I’d call some of my students (because I served as a teacher) and advise them on the issue of virginity. I also belong to NCCF where we have Teenage Unit and we were always going to schools to talk to teenagers. You could imagine the experience those students have had.

It’s really a nice piece and please keep it up.

]]> By: seunaro http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-19719 seunaro Thu, 24 May 2007 18:54:05 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-19719 Am 1 of d invesrtors in sefteg, i started last month Apil 16. They have nt credited my acct. i dont know wat is going on. Am 1 of d invesrtors in sefteg, i started last month Apil 16. They have nt credited my acct. i dont know wat is going on.

]]> By: Funskin Michael Ajayi http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-14259 Funskin Michael Ajayi Wed, 21 Mar 2007 15:59:26 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-14259 Nice piece!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nice piece!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: Kayode Muyibi http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-11852 Kayode Muyibi Mon, 26 Feb 2007 16:28:12 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-11852 When I read things like this, I usually see a lot of emphasis being laid on making the idea of virginity so special, beyond what it really is, a simple "hyped" once in a life mind blowing sexual experience. Don't get me wrong, its not right, when its done without consent or safety measures in place or by immature parties. But what usually strikes me is when people sanctify sexual relationships with morality. There is nothing painful or wrong in having sex, apart from religious dogmas that tend to make it bad or forbid it. Morality is very subjective, so is it when linked to the idea of virginity or no virginity. Teenagers are usually very experimental when it comes to regards, and I honestly don't see how you can stop one, from satisfying their urges by trying out things when the raging hormones play important roles at that level. Age does matter, I do think both the lady or the man must be mentally capable of understanding what they are trying to experiment. When it comes to people relating their first experience, it only becomes apparently sad when the narrator was a victim of rape, exploitation or any unconsensual experience. We tend sometimes to forget the happy first experience of other mature parties, it doesn't necessarily have to be sanctified by religious dogmas of waiting till the marriage contract is in place. Nevertheless I would commend that it is a good initiative to let the younger inexperienced ones, learn to be well aware of what it entails, the before and aftermath, so that the painful mistakes don't become part of their history. Well written Deolu. Rape is a crime, but loosing virginity when one chooses to, at the right age with a special person is not, even without a marriage contract. When I read things like this, I usually see a lot of emphasis being laid on making the idea of virginity so special, beyond what it really is, a simple “hyped” once in a life mind blowing sexual experience.

Don’t get me wrong, its not right, when its done without consent or safety measures in place or by immature parties. But what usually strikes me is when people sanctify sexual relationships with morality.

There is nothing painful or wrong in having sex, apart from religious dogmas that tend to make it bad or forbid it.

Morality is very subjective, so is it when linked to the idea of virginity or no virginity. Teenagers are usually very experimental when it comes to regards, and I honestly don’t see how you can stop one, from satisfying their urges by trying out things when the raging hormones play important roles at that level.

Age does matter, I do think both the lady or the man must be mentally capable of understanding what they are trying to experiment. When it comes to people relating their first experience, it only becomes apparently sad when the narrator was a victim of rape, exploitation or any unconsensual experience.

We tend sometimes to forget the happy first experience of other mature parties, it doesn’t necessarily have to be sanctified by religious dogmas of waiting till the marriage contract is in place.

Nevertheless I would commend that it is a good initiative to let the younger inexperienced ones, learn to be well aware of what it entails, the before and aftermath, so that the painful mistakes don’t become part of their history. Well written Deolu.

Rape is a crime, but loosing virginity when one chooses to, at the right age with a special person is not, even without a marriage contract.

]]> By: baby 12 http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-11462 baby 12 Wed, 21 Feb 2007 09:25:37 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-11462 I agree 100% with Deolu on the issue of idleness and viginity. Most girls lose it when dere,s nothin to do and after reading all those romantic novels we tend to be in a dream world and when the next available "nice" guy comes along we tend to accept all he says hook, line and sinker. Am sayin all this cause i found myself in that kind of situation. i was 19yrs old waiting for my jamb results when i met this guy of 27 years (we stayed in the same estate). He told me sweet nothings which to me now is rubbish. Out of idleness and too much Mills and Boons(a romance novel) i fell for him. and the result? i got pregnant. I had my first D & C at 19. I,ve never forgiven myself since then. though am married now with kids but i,ve made up my mind never to leave my kids idle. Cause as the popular adage says, an idle mind is indeed the devil,s workshop. I agree 100% with Deolu on the issue of idleness and viginity. Most girls lose it when dere,s nothin to do and after reading all those romantic novels we tend to be in a dream world and when the next available “nice” guy comes along we tend to accept all he says hook, line and sinker. Am sayin all this cause i found myself in that kind of situation. i was 19yrs old waiting for my jamb results when i met this guy of 27 years (we stayed in the same estate). He told me sweet nothings which to me now is rubbish. Out of idleness and too much Mills and Boons(a romance novel) i fell for him. and the result? i got pregnant. I had my first D & C at 19. I,ve never forgiven myself since then. though am married now with kids but i,ve made up my mind never to leave my kids idle. Cause as the popular adage says, an idle mind is indeed the devil,s workshop.

]]> By: Ibikunle http://www.deoluakinyemi.com/loosing-my-virginity/comment-page-1/#comment-11345 Ibikunle Mon, 19 Feb 2007 13:56:58 +0000 http://deoluakinyemi.com/2007/02/14/loosing-my-virginity/#comment-11345 Sir Richard Branson ? Yes that is my man! Bishop karmal ... I like your courage to talk about your experience. Sir Richard Branson ? Yes that is my man!

Bishop karmal … I like your courage to talk about your experience.

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