Category Archives: Attitude

Adeolu Akinyemi
July 14, 2011

Where are You?


“Where are you?” That statement dates back to the beginning of time. That question was the first question that God asked man after man sinned in the Garden of Eden. “Where are you?” Imagine that God is asking you that same question today! Imagine that the purpose for your being, is asking that question today! Imagine that your community and the predestined boundaries of your existence are with one voice asking – “Where are you?”.

Oh, once upon a time you were the leader of the group. Oh, you were the chief usher for your fellowship back on campus, you were the sister’s leader, bible study secretary, head of a subgroup, president of a society, pastor of a fellowship! Oh you were great, you were grand, you results were exceptional, your story was unique and you made a mark! The question today however is not where were you, or who were you or what did you do? Today’s question is “Where are you?”. Where are you today, and what exactly is your story? Or let me put it more succinctly, what is your excuse? Don’t be tongue tied, you might find your answer within the first answer ever given!

“I heard you in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked. I hid myself” – Adam Continue reading →

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Adeolu Akinyemi
December 19, 2010

So Much to be Grateful For


It’s 12:54am, 20th December, 2010. The year is coming close to an end, and it feels like just a few days ago that we said happy new year! The year has been quite eventful, we’ve made new friends, learnt new things, ventured into new opportunities and journeyed through varied experiences. There have been tough times, challenging seasons and great moments! There have been thoughts that crossed my mind, that I deliberately shut out, and there have been experiences I have savored way beyond the moment. He that thinks, thanks! I don’t know about you, but as I think about the last one week, and I think about the last 11 months, my heart wells up with gratitude, my face is flushed and my eyes teary. I’ve not had it all smooth, but there is so so much to be grateful for!

Can you think back and consciously find reasons to be grateful? Has it been worth it? You have a choice how you see the cup of your life. Half empty or half full is simply a game of perspectives. A failed attempt can be seen as one more way not to do it, or it can be seen as the basis for defining the time as wasted. Thinking back daily, weekly, monthly and yearly, there is so much to be grateful for.

Please count your blessings with me. Permit me to start from the base of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

1. Biological and Physiological Needs

For the basic needs of life – air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex and sleep, I am truly grateful. Those who have been denied of many of these are not worse in character or less than human. Some are on constant oxygen supply, many find it difficult to feed, many thirst and many do not have places to stay. To refuse to think that we are privileged is to take things for granted. I am grateful. Can you remember anything to grateful for?

2. Safety Needs

For the Safety needs of life -security, protection, order, law, limits, stability, e.t.c. I am truly grateful. My family and loved ones have been kept from harm. Financially, health-wise and physically, we have enjoyed security, we have traveled far and wide and have been kept safe and sound. Some are unsafe and insecure, we are not better than them. For these and other blessings, I am truly grateful. Can you remember safety needs met, to be grateful for?

3. Love and Belonging Needs

For my love needs in  life – family, affection, work group and relationships brought into my life, I am grateful! Nothing beats the chorus of “daddy”, “daddy”, “daddy”, when I get home, as my children compete for their hugs. Nothing beats hanging out with my wife for more than 14hrs everyday. Nothing compares with the A2W team, that surround me, and the relationships that this year has brought my way. In the area of love and a sense of belonging, I have a lot to be grateful for. What about you?

4. Esteem Needs

For the sense of worth and achievement bestowed on me in the course of this year, I am grateful. I am grateful for the awards, grateful for the achievements, the responsibility, the reputation and even the status bestowed on me. In the area of esteem needs, there is a lot to be grateful for. I am grateful, how about you? Mind you though, we are each motivated by the level we don’t yet have, so in case you have no esteem needs, be grateful that you have little or nothing to worry about.

5. Cognitive Needs

I am grateful for the hunger for knowledge that has driven me to read, to seek to know and to have a sense of meaning and of purpose. We talk so boldly and take it for granted, we have a sense of purpose, are driven to read and don’t see it as a big deal. There is so much to be grateful for, are you grateful?

6. Aesthetic Needs

For my personal growth and an increased appreciation of beauty, of balance and of form, I am truly grateful. I have been blessed with awesome sights, been thrilled by adrenalin pumping exercises. I have vacationed in different parts of the world, and enjoyed so many views, for these and more I am grateful. Do you now have reasons to be grateful?

7. Self Actualization Needs

For giving me the opportunities and the privileges to push myself towards achieving my God given potentials, I am grateful. I look at myself a year back, and I have learnt so much, and grown so fast it amazes me. “God, I am thankful”

8. Transcendence Needs

Nothing beats the feeling of hearing a “thank you” from someone you have labored to add value to and ensure turns out better than you. There is no greater joy than the joy that comes from pouring out yourself for others. Nothing equates with that feeling of rising to the height of ones personal potential and helping another person take the same journey. For the opportunities you have given me to help others become fulfilled, I am truly grateful. Are you grateful?

Make up your mind to enter into the new year with gratitude. If we think deeply enough, we can always find 5 things everyday to be grateful for. Once you can retain the attitude of gratitude, there is nothing big heading your way that will miss you. You will suddenly discover that you have become like a magnet for the things you desire.

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praisefowowe
November 30, 2010

The 21st Century Wife


For 5 years I have written my column every Friday for This Day newspaper and with every response I get all over the nation I still feel there are millions out there hurting who need to get help from this treasure in earthen vessel so it was a dream come true when I was offered a life time opportunity to feature on this platform weekly.

I want you to know that together we are going to have a swell time as I cover every aspect of singleness, marital life and sexuality so fasten your belt because every week we shall explore something new and together we shall build the most desirable homes. Ok let us get down to business.

Dear Praise,

I find it difficult to understand what my husband finds in other women that I don’t have? I do all my best to satisfy him yet he complains all the time. I can’t understand why a man that has a cardilac at home would run after the Okada outside. I think I need help on what I must do to keep my husband at home because I hear my friends share similar stories and it gets me worried

Yemi I. O

I often get lots of calls and emails along this line especially from women who are troubled by the situations in their marriages. And what I do most times is to engage them in a dialogue so that I don’t give a microwave solution (which many of them expect) to a problem I don’t fully understand.

I see a lot of ignorance among married people in the 21st century and I have said it severally that we need to begin to intentionally prepare our young people for the 21st century marriages because the challenges in this century is totally different from the challenges our parents faced when getting married.

It was sufficient for the women of old to remain as wives because they never really had the kind of attractions and distractions the present day men face. The 21st century women must not just be wives they must also be concubines to their spouses. I have addressed our men in my past editions so women should not feel this is a ploy to subjugate women but you have to be able to see it from the real intention which is to assist us build sustainable homes.

I often say to women who monitor their spouses everywhere that a man that wants to misbehave in marriage will do it no matter what you do to track his movement, but if you channel your energy to render exceptional value that is superior to what any other woman can offer you would have reduced his chances of cheating on you.

I have carefully noticed the differences between a wife and a concubine and realized that the 21st century woman has to be able to fulfill both roles so that the man’s appetite would only crave for the ‘Cadillac’ at home. It is a lot of intentional work but it is achievable because I have seen it work over the years. Why would a man in his right senses run away from his beautiful wife to pitch his tent with a stranger who is not up to his wife by any standard? It is called ‘Goodwill’ or ‘Superior service’. Goodwill says that old customers will always return to the old place. In the actual sense of it the concubine doesn’t render superior service, it only looks like it because the grass always looks greener on the other side. However we must not ignore what makes the concubine tic because if we can add it to what we are already doing and do it consistently, we would have been able to keep more men at home and sack the women outside.

I will highlight a few differences here and they are as follows:

1. Treatment – The wife treats the man like her husband while the concubine treats him like a king.

A man that is treated like a king prefers a royal treatment to being treated like a mere husband. How do you treat your husband? How do you talk to him at home and even in the midst of his friends? Look through you kitchen at the plates you have been using to serve his meal and ask yourself for how long have you used the same plate?

When it comes to serving the food how have you been presenting the food and what has been your attitude? We sometimes overlook a lot of things in marriage that makes us perform better at work than home. We render exceptional service at work because of the fear of getting sacked which makes us put up our best attitude. But without such threat or motivation at home we sometimes take a lot for granted, forgetting that as you have others waiting to take your job if you don’t handle it well at work, you also have a lot of women warming up to take your place in the life of your husband.

Every woman should remember that every time you are messing up, someone else is warming up to take your place. Why don’t you move from a husband treatment to a royal treatment today, and observe his response. But you have to do it consistently.

To be continued

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Adeolu Akinyemi
November 19, 2010

Death Before Life!


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My blog is back from it’s longest break ever. Interestingly, I did not give myself as much reason to panic as I have done in the past. While I hoped for the best and desired the best, I somehow had gotten to that place in my heart where I was willing to start again from scratch. You might not understand it, but it was like Abraham on the mount going with a resolve to sacrifice is son, knowing that God would provide an alternative, either before or after. If you know how emotionally attached I am to this blog, and how much of my years it has consumed, you will understand. I had however gotten to the point where I knew, that even if it did not come back to live, there was something great ahead that it needed to give way to. It dawned on me afresh, that if the seed of grain does not fall to the ground and die, it abides alone, but that if it dies, the comeback to live will be with abundance.

If anything in your life seems to be dying don’t lose faith. If God seems to be testing you with something you hold dear, don’t lose heart. If it seems that your business is experiencing a low time, don’t lose hope. The process of growth is usually preceded by a decline-the seeds first die before they sprout. Take heart and be of good courage your great days are here. That’s exactly the way it’s going to be on this site starting from this coming week. Continue reading →

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Adeolu Akinyemi
November 2, 2010

What’s Your Excuse?


“Question 3 for winning a Samsung GT-S3100 – “What is the full meaning of KB and MB” You can answer the questions now that you see question 3. Answers to be sent to seun.adelana at gmail.com”

“We played the flute for you, and you did not dance; we sang a dirge and you did not mourn. For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, ‘He has a demon.’ The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners.’ But wisdom is proved right by her deeds.” -Matthew 11:18,19

Excuses are monuments of fools, they are tools of the incompetent, he that is wise, will not live by them! Excuses are the reasons failures give for failing! Wisdom is never proven by words, it’s proven by deeds. John has a demon and Jesus is a glutton and a drunkard, hence the generation of old armed themselves with the tools of the incompetent. Their generation didn’t start giving excuses however, it started from the first time man displayed disobedience, Adam opened his mouth “The woman that you gave me, gave me and I ate”. Today however, thousands of years after, men are still forever limited by their excuses!

What is your excuse? What reason have you given yourself to condone and accommodate where you currently are? Are you living true to your potentials? Are you capable of doing more or being more than where you currently are? What is limiting you? You don’t have a choice? Or you have given yourself no other choice? Almost 2yrs ago, I saw the true light and possibilities of what Avenues to Wealth (then Holidays and Cash) could become. I came from Malaysia filled with passion for possibilities. It amazes me how almost two years later, some of the people I shared the opportunity with, have managed to either stay on the same spot or actually fall behind. The company listened objectively to every objection and limitation communicated to it, and have made moves to change everything and make things better. Today, the company is light years ahead of it’s past, yet, some have heard the flute and not danced, they even listened to the dirge and still refused to mourn. What’s your excuse? Continue reading →

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Adeolu Akinyemi
October 8, 2010

Tips to Becoming a Leader


“The hand of the diligent shall bear rule; but the slothful shall be put under tribute” – Proverbs 12:24 (KJV)

“Diligent hands will rule, but laziness ends in slave labor” – Proverbs 12:24 (NIV)

Interestingly this week, I have found myself in front of two different categories of gatherings and speaking on the same topic from two different perspectives. What I want to try to do today, is offer you the benefit of enjoying thoughts from both sessions.

The verse quoted above has never ceased to amaze me, the more I look at it the more seems to pop out at me from this statement. Interestingly when I ask people to task themselves and bring out 4 implied meanings of the sentence above, I actually get pleasantly surprised that people are able to look and actually see more than they also saw before taking a closer look. I’ll like you to pay rapt attention to this post, as the hidden details in the sentence above can set you on the pathway of success for the rest of your life.

Here are the things that are clear from the statements above Continue reading →

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Adeolu Akinyemi
September 24, 2010

Don’t Quit!


Are you experiencing any of these symptoms?

•    A compulsion to prove oneself
•    Working harder
•    Neglecting one’s own needs
•    Displacement of conflicts (the person does not realize the root cause of the distress)
•    Revision of values (friends or hobbies are completely dismissed)
•    Denial of emerging problems (cynicism and aggression become apparent)
•    Withdrawal (reducing social contacts to a minimum, becoming walled off; alcohol or other substance abuse may occur)
•    Behavioral changes become obvious to others
•    Depersonalization (life becomes a series of mechanical functions)
•    Inner emptiness
•    Depression

If you are experiencing any of these as symptoms, then you are approaching burnout. You need to quickly retrace your steps. You are in this business because you want to own your life, and enjoy your life, don’t let anything stress you out. Don’t allow anything to wear you out emotionally. Change your game!

Here are a few tips on what you can do. Continue reading →

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Adeolu Akinyemi
September 23, 2010

Success Factors 2


I began a series a few days ago on success factors. I promised that I would complete the success factors, and as such, I have decided to make good that promise today. Success factors are the basic attributes, attitudes, skills or qualities that form the basis for success in any successful person. These are factors that anybody from any level of achievement can practice and their success will be guaranteed. If our habits are right, our results cannot be wrong for long. If you know the factors and practice them relentlessly, you are success bound.

In the industry that I’m passionate about – the Network Marketing industry, the factors required cut across what you’ll need to succeed in almost any sphere. It is indeed a training school for all round success in all spheres of life. If you can put this to practice and succeed here in this industry, I have no doubt that you’ll succeed in family, business or any of the spheres of influence. Continue reading →

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