Sex 101
I decided to do something really interesting today, I invited a guest facilitator to come and facilitate a “let’s talk about sex, no holds barred session” for all of us in Generis Solutions. I had met Praise Fowowe only a few days ago, and had been so impressed with him and his work, I was eager to make everyone hear him.
The session went well, it was an opportunity to see and know ourselves better, and an opportunity to do a self introspection and level up with where we were as individuals and where we are going. If 9/10 men become unfaithful in their marriages, and 9/9 who engage end up their lives in funny and mysterious circumstances, the best we can do for our future is educate ourselves and be in control. After the 2hrs sex talk section, I decided to interview Praise Fowowe. Please Read on and Enjoy
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Adeolu Akinyemi: So can we meet you? Who is Praise Fowowe, and what do you do?
Adeolu Akinyemi: Your audience is Corporate Nigeria, Young Nigerians and People interested in their futures and in Personal Development.
Praise Fowowe: Praise Fowowe is a turning point for people. You don’t meet him and remain the same. He is simply out to raise a sexually pure generation, build the most desirable marriages and assist people and organizations attain competitive leverage through personal effectiveness
Adeolu Akinyemi: Very interesting and different objectives. Can you share with us what your journey has been like, and why you?
Praise Fowowe: It has been one long process of measurable fulfilment. I left the university with 2 decisions. 1 was not to work as an accountant and the other was to positively affect people’s relationships in a way that generations unborn and my creator would be proud of. So rising from an abusive background, I have had to visit brothels to toast prostitutes out of prostitution, assist the sexually abused, train the sex addicts and sexually defiants, restore broken marriages and facilitate personal effectiveness sessions for banks and other organizations. We are also in about 3 secondary schools now and 4 campuses
Adeolu Akinyemi: Wow…
Adeolu Akinyemi: First, I like to establish a basis for authority. I want to listen to people only when I know they have achieved something and have a basis for commanding my attention. Can you tell me what you have achieved so far in the line of creating a sex pure generation? Why should I listen to you? Have prostitutes left prostitution? Are sex addicts changing? What is your experience…?
Praise Fowowe: over 27 prostitutes have left the brothels especially at the capital of prostitution in Ajegunle the famous good evening street, I have personally trained over 150 ex sex addicts and built a network of over 250 people who have subscribed to the sex-pure-centric vision and who meet weekly in Ajegunle to reinforce that believe. I have also started the sexpurecentric friendship centres on 66 streets in Ajegunle and planning to extend to 200 streets this year where youths meet weekly to talk about their sexuality issues and get help.
Adeolu Akinyemi: Amazing…
Praise Fowowe: not to talk of the over 6million people that read my private matters column on Saturday -Thisday (recently stopped writing it after 3 years)
Adeolu Akinyemi: Ok, I’m all ears now… you certainly must be an authority in what you are saying… but tell me, why is it important to not to have sex, isn’t it okay to just use condom? Or why should people be sex pure… is this a religious thing? Why sex purity, and not the popular anti HIV - “Use Condom”
Praise Fowowe: not at all it’s about posterity. God has never killed any man for not having sex but many have been killed for perverting sex. There is no condom that is 100% safe, if it were safe Malawi’s life expectancy wouldn’t be 37years, Botswana won’t be 39. Sex is more than the virus
Adeolu Akinyemi: hmm…
Praise Fowowe: It involves the body, soul and the spirit. Tell me is there a condom that can protect the mind or the spirit. Can a condom protect the memories? Can the condom assist the esteem of the young girl that was raped? It’s like wearing the gloves to kill and saying it wasn’t you that murdered the person
Adeolu Akinyemi: hmmm… I don’t think a condom can.
Praise Fowowe: It is about behavioural transformation. Something must have been responsible for their current situation and they can restore their sexuality. I have seen ex-addicts become sane by redefining their concepts of sex. I have facilitated sessions for people to love themselves and love the people around them as beings and not as things and I have seen transformation. My former P.A in 2003 had sex for 145days out of 365days but when we met and by the application of the information hasn’t had sex since then. He is getting married soon.
Adeolu Akinyemi: But what do you recommend to a person who as the advert says “if you can’t hold body?”
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[13:22:08] Adeolu Akinyemi says: As you were saying… why not the condoms approach?
[13:24:53] PRAISE FOWOWE says: you see people who even talk about condom pay lip service to it or how do you explain a conference of over 600 sexologists and top sex educators in Washington DC in 1991 where the late president of American sex educators Dr. Theresa Crenshaw asked all of them how many would be willing to try the condom if they knew their partner was HIV positive? Only one person stood up, she said it was irresponsible for them to advocate what they weren’t willing to practise
[13:25:15] Adeolu Akinyemi says: Is it really possible to abstain from sex? Or are people to focus on just one partner… married or unmarried?
[13:25:32] PRAISE FOWOWE says: it is very much possible to abstain.
[13:26:07] Adeolu Akinyemi says: You speak with so much certainty… how?
[13:27:07] PRAISE FOWOWE says: The most important thing about life isn’t sex and we know that. I am so certain because I have been there before and I made up my mind that I was going to change and by changing my mind I changed my life and sustained my purity for 9years till I got married
[13:28:10] PRAISE FOWOWE says: The most important sex organ isn’t the genitals contrary to what medical scientists teach. It is our mind and the mind is at best a slave, it is enslaved to the dominant information it contains
[13:28:47] PRAISE FOWOWE says: so if you change the information in your mind, value your life and discover a higher purpose for living, sex may be the least of your problems
[13:29:44] Adeolu Akinyemi says: But what of people who do it only with their steady partners? Because there is a school of thought that says that it’s difficult to be in control… and abstain once one already has developed the habit… will it not help against incest, bestiality and other perverted options if people have to stay off completely?
[13:33:01] PRAISE FOWOWE says: as much as they may want to rationalize that but we all know that sex is addictive and men are predators. What happens when one partner isn’t around? Go and find out from people who are of this schools of thought you will discover that they are not faithful to any partner because for the woman she is giving the sex to keep the man forgetting that no woman has ever kept a guy through sex and for the guy sooner than later he is going to get tired of her and would want to explore another lady. It’s either you are self controlled or you are not and once you are not anything can happen.
[13:33:43] Adeolu Akinyemi says: hmmm…
[13:36:56] PRAISE FOWOWE says: once you are addicted to sex every opportunity is used to satisfy the urge and that is where the problem is. But I say to people that you can’t be addicted to whatever you have never started. We are human beings and we have the power to be in control. If people know what to do when they are in the middle of the road and there is an on-coming vehicle. If they know what to do when they are hungry and the only food available is poisoned, if they know what to do when on the verge of sex the lady announces her HIV positive status. Men….let’s not deceived ourselves and revel in our learned helplessness. We can do it
[13:37:33] Adeolu Akinyemi says: great words and great thoughts…
[13:38:32] PRAISE FOWOWE says: the original African mothers never wore blouse or top, they tied wrapper and it was a taboo for the men to violate them then because the fear of the god of the land was the beginning of wisdom. Then what has happened to us? What we have become now was learned and can be unlearned because we were not born with it
[13:38:45] PRAISE FOWOWE says: thanks my brother
[13:39:23] Adeolu Akinyemi says: from your experience, how will you statistically classify Nigerians… sexually abused, sexually educated, broken, virgins, active e.t.c. do you have an idea of these numbers? We want a New Nigeria… and I’m bold to say we don’t want the life expectancy of that Nigeria to be 40 as it is in some parts of Nigeria today… I feel we are headed in this direction, and the only security we hear is use condom.
[13:42:56] PRAISE FOWOWE says: unfortunately we don’t have accurate statistics in Nigeria but the UN says 7 out of every 10 ladies have been sexually abused before 18. I personally conducted a survey last year among 200 young people aged 16-24 and discovered that 186 of them were sexually abused, 198 was battling with one form of sexual activity or the other, 200 said they needed help urgently about their sexuality, and so on and my relationship with young people in universities and secondary school has exposed me to the reality that a lot of Nigerians are sexually active and more children are being sexually abused at the moment
[13:44:08] PRAISE FOWOWE says: Also the only safe sex is sex in the marriage environment and if you are not going to get married get busy with your assignment and become a positive role-model for the younger generation. God has never killed anyone for not having sex.
[13:47:49] PRAISE FOWOWE says: People make a lot of money from manufacturing condom and they know Africa is more or less a dumping ground because most of us don’t question what comes from abroad. Dr Oyedepo once said ‘it doesn’t have to be white to be right. I believe that. Gay is from there is it right? Bestiality is from there is it right? Divorce in America is now a statistics game. It says one out of two marriages will end in divorce, is that right? We must think again and challenge what we believe, we must rediscover ourselves. I mean our Nigerianness and know that we have what to give them abroad and it’s our love for one another, our commitment to each other and our sexual purity, we have done it before and we can do it again that is the power of a Nigerian
[13:51:04] Adeolu Akinyemi says: Wow… how do we cure this scourge… what is the root of the problem and how do we tackle it. I daresay we have no lessons from the west… we don’t want to be like them… what is the root and what are the solutions?
[13:55:22] PRAISE FOWOWE says: Every sexual problem is either rooted in the non-discovery of self or the non-remembrance of self. If you don’t know who you truly are you won’t know what not to do and if you forget who you are as well you will misbehave. We have to assist our people rediscover themselves, make knowledge available with positive role models everywhere advocating abstinence. Sexual purity must come back to vogue and people must feel bad for engaging in pre/extra marital sex. We must infiltrate the air waves and the prints media with positive sexual messages and let our young people see what is right. We must engage their minds and get abusers pay heavily for their secrets acts.
[13:56:09] Adeolu Akinyemi says: hmmm…
[13:58:34] PRAISE FOWOWE says: if we do this we will see a different world emerge from Nigeria however the revolution must start with the families that was why I came up with the Undressing sex DVD and now am thinking about the undressing sex cartoons so that we can teach sexual abuse and other deviant behaviours through cartoons and how young people must report these cases. I have written songs but must get it out so that we can get this message everywhere. We must develop our own sex education and make them compulsory subjects in schools. We can do it I see possibilities; I see the realities of this I know it is possible. We can! We must! And we will do it!
[14:01:44] Adeolu Akinyemi says: we must! I like that.
[14:02:41] Adeolu Akinyemi says: I can see you have done a lot of great work in Ajegunle, you’ve also used your story to role model the right behaviours… I believe we need to export these values nationwide…: I think we need to replicate your great work…
[14:03:29] PRAISE FOWOWE says: I believe so too and I know it can be done.
[14:04:08] Adeolu Akinyemi says: Sex is a topic most parents don’t even talk to their children about… I think we need to clone you Praise….and get a lot more people involved in promoting sex education and abstinence…
[14:04:48] PRAISE FOWOWE says: when I started out I saw the sexpurecentric friendship centres being replicated in homes and streets all over the world. I laughed and asked myself how possible that would be. It is beyond me and must live after us
[14:06:31] PRAISE FOWOWE says: it must be done my brother. That would be the height of my fulfilment when over 5 million people can do the same and do it better wherever they find themselves and not just talking but living the life. If we get it right now and pass the message to our children I believe we will raise a new generation that God would be proud of
[14:07:25] Adeolu Akinyemi says: hmmm… and like you told me earlier… 9/10 husband engage in extramarital affairs…the young girls they prey on, go ahead to abuse little boys, who grow up… and the cycle continues… this creates a cycle that we must stop..
[14:08:26] PRAISE FOWOWE says: we must stop the cycle of abuse. If the abuse baton has been passed to us through the people that abused us we must break the baton and ensure we don’t pass it to another person. It must be done
[14:09:28] PRAISE FOWOWE says: we must re-write history and shatter the record books. Tear the western statistics and give them a brand new statistics of sexual purity from Nigeria enroute the world
[14:10:15] Adeolu Akinyemi says: I feel you my brother… and agree too…
[14:11:08] PRAISE FOWOWE says: we must start pre-marital academy to ground our intending couples on the marital institution and follow it up by appointing marital mentors who must ensure their marriage work. With that we will reduce divorce and some of these vices
[14:12:24] Adeolu Akinyemi says: You mentioned something about definitions helping stay pure as well… can you help us with some of those definitions?
[14:13:24] PRAISE FOWOWE says: what is sex? Sex is a covenant exchange of life, love and pleasure between the man and the woman in the marriage environment for the purpose of unity, procreation and the expression of marital love
[14:14:26] PRAISE FOWOWE says: female breast- The milk manufacturing factory of the woman with a specialised consumer-infants and acts as a secondary sex organ for sexual pleasure in the marriage environment
[14:14:40] Adeolu Akinyemi says: Hmmm… If people agree to this definition… we will have very few to no “accidental occurrences”…lol
[14:15:05] PRAISE FOWOWE says: vagina- The sealed parcel of land of the woman (hymen) that must be exclusively preserved for the king’s cultivation in the marital season
[14:15:19] Adeolu Akinyemi says: hmm…laiwo we.
[14:15:42] PRAISE FOWOWE says: semen - The man’s choice seed that guarantees the preservation of his future
[14:16:08] Adeolu Akinyemi says: hmm…
[14:17:01] Adeolu Akinyemi says: I think we need to propagate these definitions… and have detailed curriculums on them… interestingly… all of us grew up… with different funny definitions… no wonder we abuse our sexualities…
[14:17:10] PRAISE FOWOWE says: female body- The earth suit of the woman that guarantees her legality on planet earth. It is like the bottle of coca-cola. What moves you isn’t the bottle but the content so see to know the content and refuse to be moved by the packaging or the container
[14:17:39] PRAISE FOWOWE says: I have a curriculum for all these things
[14:18:24] PRAISE FOWOWE says: it’s time to get it right
[14:18:33] Adeolu Akinyemi says: hmm… I’m awed to silence… well done.
[14:21:05] PRAISE FOWOWE says: I have to run to the off to the office now the gay client is waiting for me. He has improved tremendously was shocked to see him at daystar on Sunday saying to me that he is a changed man. Have to go and see him. Thanks Deolu for re-kindling my spirit. Something has been re-ignited in me I feel the energy and passion all over again like when I started. Thanks a million my brother. I love you and appreciate you for everything.
[14:23:17] PRAISE FOWOWE says: you are indeed a candle that lights other candle
[14:27:36] Adeolu Akinyemi says: On a final note… what do you have to say to the thousands and millions of Nigerians out there… who shy away from the topic of sex, but are active in ways that damage their conscience?
[14:29:58] PRAISE FOWOWE says: They must be true to themselves and see the big picture, for the guys refuse to see a hole in the ladies. Every lady you meet is an opportunity to either put your name in their hall of fame or shame. The same power you have to defile is the same power you have to file (sharpen, develop) so exercise your choice and will power in the right direction and always ask what would she have to say about me after 10 years.
[14:33:11] PRAISE FOWOWE says: same for the ladies if you give sex to the guy you are sleeping with another woman’s man and partnering with him to destroy himself and his families. The real Nigeria is the Nigerians so whatever is done to one is done to Nigeria. Will you defile Nigeria (ladies) or build them. Your life ultimately would be valued by your degree of donation to humanity and not your bank account. Would you have donated sperms (virus) or an incredible legacy that can stand the test of time? Selah.
[14:33:38] Adeolu Akinyemi says: Wow…
[14:34:31] Adeolu Akinyemi says: thanks very much for your time… I really appreciate your making out time for us to do this interview. I have no doubt that many will find it useful
[14:35:02] Adeolu Akinyemi says: I also believe that in our quest for a New Nigeria… we cannot leave off such an important topic.
[14:35:18] PRAISE FOWOWE says: let us talk about sex, let us live the life, spread the information and raise a sexually pure generation. It is possible and remember we can! We must and we will do it. Join me as I pledge to my God and gender to keep my body from pre/extra-marital sex. To treat every lady as my mother, sister, daughter and my neighbour’s queen to defend their virginity and uphold their chastity and purity. So help me God
[14:35:34] Adeolu Akinyemi says: Hmmm! AMEN! {I’ll need one for the ladies}
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this is quite interesting.i sure learnt new things…thanks so much deolu.the fragrance never leaves the hands that gives the rose.may the fragrance always remain with you.
Sound, very sound, i happened to be opportuned to be present for the session Praise Fowowe had with us this morning and i say it was moving, i’ll say he will move mountains with this course.
God bless you Praise Fowowe, and pls keep lighting others.
After the session this Morning ,i was a bit scared of the kind of generation that’s evolving,with the kind of analysis we were getting ,am thinking do we still have children or mini- adult?with all the erotic musicals they listen to …
God bless you Chairman for letting us in to this session.for Mr Praise God will grant you the grace to execute this task successfully .
we are with you in prayers
I heard it all today and for the first time i was in touch with my sexuality without being ashamed.I challenge every parent and parent-to-be to take hold of their sexuality and stop the mediocrity today.Culture has got nothing to do with it
‘Information is power’. Thanks to PRAISE F. for following his passion on ’sexual purity’ and being a role model. And thanks to ‘Chairman’ for his ability to identify and make available these channels of blessing to us. It will surely not be in vain.
wow! i salute ur passion to see a sexually pure generation.sex!Godly and indeed deadly when done wrongly. Thanks alot.more power to your elbow.
I respect Praise Fowowe’s passion for what he is doing. He is using his energy in the right direction. And i am happy he is improving the Nigerian Brand. God bless both of you!
As usual, nice one from u Deolu! Nice and challenging piece. I particularly liked the “Hall of Fame or Hall of Shame” bit. Like Stephen Covey, Author of Seven Habits of Highly Effective Peopl, said- start with the end in mind;if we approach all our relationships with the opposite sex with the attitude “my actions will place me in the Hall of Fame or Hall of Shame”, I’m certain it would help us make wise decisions.
Something I always told myself that, with benefit of hindsight helped me immensely, was “I must treat every lady like I’ll want someone else to treat my sister and future wife (I was unmarried then)”. Trust me, choosing to walk in integrity always pays major dividends and every “opportunity” to exploit people seemingly lost would be more than “repaid” by God exceedingly, abundantly, above ALL you could ever have asked of or thought!
I feel you brothers!
Great topic! great insights!! great inspiration!!!
Sexual purity is possible. We can, and will, attain it.
We must not always look up to the west for direction, they have failed us. It is time we looked inward to discover our true selves and upward to GOD.
Nice to know that there are other protagonists of a New Nigeria.
Cheers!
Deolu and Praise, GOD will bless you abundantly and renew your strength.
NIGERIA 2025, A PRE / EXTRA MARITAL SEX FREE GENERATION!!!!!!!
This is a very good one.
I will however say that when it comes to sex most of us are hypocrites! May the Lord help our generation.Amen
Insightful and thoughtful. This will go a long way in weathering the storms of sex manianism in todays world.
This is so insightful. It`s really good to be reminded that God has never killed anyone for not having sex. Thank you Chairman and Praise for driving home this much needed truth about sexual purity. For me, it couldn`t have been more timely. It`s good to know that there is the possibility of a sex-pure-centric Nu Nigeria. Keep up being role models. God bless you.
I think we can drive home the point the more if only we can control our inner drive;
If only we can discover a higher purpose for living; and
If only we can exercised a bit of self control.
Above all, we must realize that our body is the Temple of the most High God, that must be reverenced, we must learn to fear the Almighty God and Nigeria will be a better place to live.
Sexual purity must be preached and imbibed, if a new Niger must emerge.
This is part of the revolution that will give birth to the New Nigeria of our dream.
With due respect, Praise Fowowe: I salute your courage, heavenly blessings await you.
Sex is a word loaded with social taboos and cultural mystery. It is 100% necessary for the continuation of the human race and yet it is treated as if it is unnatural, even down right dirty but I appreciate the fact that moms and dads needs to speak openly and listen carefully to their children concerning sex issues and biological facts about sex.
We also need to make them understand that sexual relationship involves caring, concern and responsibility; by discussion, the emotional aspect of a sexual relationship with your child and they will be better informed to make decisions later on and to resist peer pressure.
And most parents should do their best in talking with their kids about sex and sexuality, but we are often not sure how to begin. And I believe with this great discussion about sex, we can educate and people will be better informed.
Cheers….
Deolu,
You truly are a platform. May God Continue to increase you.
Praise,
You have discovered your purspose. God will grant you all it takes to fulfill it. I am convinced you will deliver. His grace is available and sufficient to see you through.
God bless.
Deji Olatunde
wow, deolu this is terific.came at the right time.at least does definitions will come handy. praise, may GOD BE YOUR MUSCLE AS YOU CARRY ON TH IS GREAT WORK.
Sexual abstinence is a matter of orientation, environment and personal decision. All these play a role in determining one’s move as a man or woman. A country where a young men boast of the number of women they have dated or presently dating will surely see abstinence as something not worthy mentioning.
Personal decision is very important and it can only be done either through fear or mind control. Personally I was admitted to the university in 1998. But I was afraid to even go into a serious relationship having be motivated not to do so by a movie from produced by Mount Zion Ministry titled ‘Agbara Nla’ Being admitted to UI which happen to be the setting of the movie, I thought lot of ladies on campus at the Ibadan campus were ‘marine agents’ working for the Ayyaa Matanga. By the time I undertand it was just a movie, I was in my third year.
Nevertheless, I determine not to defile myself throughout my stay in the university. Majority of my friends were also virgins as at that time. Though I knew that some pple might have experienced sexual relation in one way or another. I never think absinence is something anyone can’t do, as long as anybody can decide not to steal another person money or things that person can surely abstain from sex. But if we see sex as something that we should be boasting about comparing it the the number of 7points we make in certain courses. It’s still going to be a problem. Women too have their own faults. Majority of women dress to expose their breast (cleavages) to dust, just in the attempt to show it to the opposite sex how fresh their cleavages were and Nollywood film entertainment is the number one propagator of this dress sense.
I know the kind of problem and tauntings I encountered then from some of my colleagues at school. The basic thing is that it can be done when we have the ability to control the mind, though that advice is for the adults. But for young girls or boys, I think Mount Zion movies such as ‘Agbara Nla’ will play a role in instilling fear into their mind. Some people might say it’s superstition; I will say that superstition is good as long as one use the idea projected to achieve excellent objective.
More power to Fowope and Deolu for bringing this topic to the room.
May d good Lord drive home this timely,scarce and
uncommon WORDS in DEEPEST part of our hearts.
PRAISE! ur well will never run dry.
Deolu, Praise
Great Job!
Pls how can I contact Praise?
Many tx.
wow
hmmmm what can I say? I’m dumbfounded
Double WOW!!
this really got to me:
“The most important sex organ isn’t the genitals contrary to what medical scientists teach. It is our mind and the mind is at best a slave, it is enslaved to the dominant information it contains”
Deolu, Keep the good work up and Praise, God is your strength!
it culdnt be more touching. soul arresting. the mind. yes the mind. its a process though. consistency and strong will is the key. my religion actually preaches abstinence. but lately,i wonder if that isposssible with all the sex virility flowing in our blood as young men and women passing through the most sexually active period of their life.
right now my belief is REINFORCED.
i have not wild experiences though
Waoh and double waoh!!!… I’ve heard about you Praise and I really long to see and speak with you…..what is it about this divorce issue?… I need to be enlightened. Thanks for this….